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Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Surviving spouse in landmark gay marriage case dies; faced another recent Arkansas indignity

Posted By on Tue, Oct 13, 2015 at 8:09 AM

AT REST: Jay  Hoskins-Stone (left) and James Stone-Hoskins. - JAY HOSKINS-STONE
  • Jay Hoskins-Stone
  • AT REST: Jay Hoskins-Stone (left) and James Stone-Hoskins.

The Dallas Voice brings news
of the death over the weekend of Jay Hoskins-Stone who won a landmark court case to be listed on the Texas death certificate of his spouse, Arkansas native James Stone-Hoskins.

The request for equity took a court battle in which the attorney general of Texas was asked to show why he shouldn't be held in contempt for refusing to recognize the couple's New Mexico marriage license after the U.S. Supreme Court ruling prohibited state bans on same-sex marriage.

We've written about the couple before, particularly the unfriendly treatment Hoskins-Stone encountered when his spouse died. They were denied use of a rural church in Baxter County and given a "sympathy" card that included anti-gay messages.

We had been planning to talk more with Jay Hoskins-Stone, who wrote the following note to me a few days ago.

I had to relocate our grave from Baxter County back to Conroe where I now reside. I have one hell of a story to tell about the phone calls that led to it, how my caregiver was accosted by a man wearing a large Bowie knife preventing him from entering my truck when he was at Lowe's in Mountain Home, that he wanted to know why he had that “faggot's” headstone in the back of the truck. My caregiver said he was of no relation and was transporting it to its final resting place.

If you want to do that interview with me, now might be a good time. Health is failing and losing vision, hearing, bladder functions come and go, and liver has been diagnosed as a non alcoholic fatty liver that progressed to stetohepatitis - which will proceed to liver failure. There is no medication, treatment or cure.

With the multiple organs and senses shutting down, I would say I am on very borrowed time.

We have relocated the urn and grave to Conroe, where it is next to the funeral home and the gates are locked at night.

It has been one hell of a week getting James’ cremains home and the monument. I recovered 2 of about 8-10 items that were stolen off his grave prior to my arrival.

Then the incident with the “faggot” headstone marker….

2 nights prior to my arrival, the maker of the monument had his windows knocked out of an antique car. The monument was stored safely inside.

Coincidence, maybe…. Needless to say, it was a fight to protect the grave and resting place. I had to use the federal court order and the amended death certificate to get his cremains and the headstone without his mother being involved.

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