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Re: “Senate passes Missy Irvin’s attack on adults making choices she doesn't like

Since breast implants are arguably the insertion of an object under the skin for ornamentation, guess my hopes for a mommy makeover boob job just flew out the window, eh?

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Posted by BigMomma on 03/06/2013 at 10:06 PM

Re: “Big Momma takes the floor on transvaginal probes, abortion

Wowza. I go to work and hop online to cure the afternoon doldrums and there it is. Thanks all and thanks Max for the unexpected attention.

I did want to clarify one thing: I'm referring to early first trimester testing, some of which can now be done as early as 10 or 11 weeks. The 20 week "big" ultrasound (where most impatient folks like me tend to find out if you're buying pink or blue), is traditionally when an expectant mom could find out if there were indicators for Downs or some neural tube defects, which is primarily done (and I'm a layperson here, I just have them done and don't understand the science) through measurements of the baby as ultrasound pictures are taken from different angles.

Now there are blood tests that can be done early in the first trimester to screen for certain chromosomal defects. This is big time, cutting edge stuff that wasn't even offered to me when my first child was born, but is now being offered to mothers with certain risk factors (including my aforementioned advanced maternal age...ahem). Bear in mind that if you know when you conceived or had your last menstrual period with a degree of certainty, some doctors don't do an ultrasound of any kind in the first trimester to confirm a viable pregnancy, so really, with the early testing available now, a situation could indeed arise where a woman discovers abnormalities in the early first trimester and wishes to abort. Thus, we go back to one, probing a woman even if it's not medically necessary and/or two, a situation where a woman is unable to get an abortion at 8, 9 or 10 weeks because a heartbeat is present.

And I very much appreciate the good thoughts. We've been fortunate to have beautiful, healthy children and expect another healthy pregnancy this time. The uncertainty is always difficult, but that's parenthood, eh?

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Posted by BigMomma on 02/06/2013 at 2:34 PM

Re: “Rapert pulls vaginal probe; no fix for unconstitutional bill

Ok B-Rock, I'll bite.

First, let's work on terminology. I assume we're all adults here, right? These legislators are wanting to require a probe stuck in a woman's vagina. Vagina, vagina, vagina. I know men have a hard time saying the word, in spite of their endless fascination with the region, but if you can't say "vagina" then you probably ought not be legislating it.

Now-let's look at your logic. Since a woman having an abortion is having all sorts of sundry objects stuck "up in there," then what's one more, right? Your argument assumes that a woman's vagina is something akin to the Lincoln Tunnel. By your same rationale, then, a sexually active woman shouldn't really mind being raped, since if she's had one penis (or if you prefer, Mr. Peepee or a wee wee since "penis" may also be hard to say) stuck "up in there," then really, why not a few more?

Perhaps that's a bit extreme, so let's go real world. I am currently in my first trimester of a planned pregnancy. This is not my first rodeo, so I have other children at home who rely upon me every single day. I also have a husband who I think likes having me around. Soon, my OB will discuss with me some options for genetic testing that I can choose to have done in the next couple of weeks. There are some new tests with 99% accuracy in detecting genetic abnormalities, some of which mean certain death for an unborn child. Since I am now, at the ripe age of 35, of "advanced maternal age," that means that this time around, my child is slightly more likely to have some of these genetic issues.

Hypothetically speaking, were one of those tests to come back positive, naturally my husband and I would seek second, third and fourth opinions. We'd meet with specialists. And then we'd have to make some difficult decisions. Let me tell you plainly: The news would be devastating, but I know in my heart that I could not continue a pregnancy where I knew that this baby would die shortly after birth or would be born sleeping. I personally am not able, and I am not willing to risk my other children watching their mother go through a doomed pregnancy - and living the aftermath - if I have some other option.

So, back to these legislators. After all of this agony, they want me to jump through one final hoop: being violated by a cold metal probe to verify a heartbeat. After all, I've had any number of other tests done, blood drawn, objects in my vagina, so why not subject me to one more, right? I shouldn't mind. It shouldn't bother me to be violated one last time, to be shamed by my decision, made with sound medical advice, discussion with my husband and yes, even prayer. Why not one last probe?

Perhaps it is difficult for men to understand this because they cannot carry life, and understand what agony it must be for a woman to be forced to carry a pregnancy in which the tiny baby inside her kicks not because they have a working brain, but because they have a functional spinal column, and no brain to support life outside the womb. Knowing that the moment they push that life into the world will not be one of joy, but instead one of knowing that the child's life will be counted in minutes, or hours and not years. Or perhaps that there will be years, but those years will be spent in excruciating pain. Some women are brave enough for this, and I commend them for their strength. I am not, and I cannot sacrifice myself when my other children also deserve to have their mother.

Do people abuse the ability to get an abortion? Absolutely. Some get abortions for far less noble reasons. On the other hand, some people abuse their right to own a gun and go and kill their neighbors, and yet, as you aptly pointed out, the rights of responsible gun owners should not be infringed upon due to the bad acts of others. Likewise, should my right to make a responsible decision about my reproductive rights be infringed upon because some women are not responsible and abuse the ability to get an abortion as a means of birth control? Let's not be selective when we discuss constitutional rights - I'll stay out of your gun safe if you stay out of my vagina.

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Posted by BigMomma on 02/06/2013 at 9:10 AM
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