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Re: “And away I go

Thanks to all of you who responded to--encouraged, corrected, helped clarify--my comments. Arkansawyer, thanks for setting me straight re: my numerical dyslexia about the adoption vote. I could have sworn it was 75%, but if you say 57%, then I accept that you're right. Wouldn't be the first time I've transposed numbers. (And thanks for catching one of what are probably many typos in my postings, Norma.)

Nanc, I'm encouraged to know (and I did know this, of course, but it helps to hear from "real" voices) that some folks working in local hospitals would be appalled to hear of the treatment we got several years ago, when I insisted on spending the night with my partner as he recovered from a hip replacement. It was gruesome. And very scary, because you truly don't have a lot of power to do anything, when you're right in the situation, dependent on the staff to provide for you--and therefore vulnerable, if one person like that nurse chooses to retaliate when you ask for the care the doctor has ordered.

It's the feeling of helplessness when something like this happens in places like Arkansas is hardest to cope with--because it is real, actual helplessness. There are not laws to prevent this kind of behavior, and when you do raise your voice against it, you frequently find that it's you who are blamed for doing so, and not those who have discriminated against you. And you often find it's the very people you expected to assist you in fighting discrimination--good, church-going people who claim to deplore discrimination--who turn on you and blame you for eliciting your victimization.

When you have family ties to the hospital where you experience this, it becomes even more painful. I had my tonsils out in that hospital when I was four. My grandmother died there. Several of her sisters received loving treatment for breast cancer there.

And, again, the helplessness with the nightmare with that judge. Lawyer after lawyer has told me they have never heard of such a case, in which two professional men in their late 40s, providing care for the aging, demented mother of one of them, suddenly find themselves accused of fiscal malfeasance--when not a single family member has complained, and there is no evidence of any such malfeasance.

This wouldn't have happened to a straight professional man caring for his mother, lawyers have told me. But though every member of my family wrote indignant letters to the judge stating that we had given wonderful care to my mother and had most certainly not misused her estate, the judge persisted, hounded, insulted. She ordered an ad litem attorney to visit the house and inspect it, as if we were living in a slum. She instructed us to start buying food for my mother separately, paying for our weekly groceries not as a family, but trying to keep two accounts for all grocery shopping--an impossible task, and one no one has time for as they care for an aging parent with dementia.

Though the nursing home I chose when my mother's doctor told me I absolutely had to make that choice was one of the most expensive around--and why would I choose an expensive nursing home if I was trying to steal the estate?--and though the judge had accused me of misusing the estate, it took weeks for her to approve the decision to place my mother there. And yet her claim was that she was acting to assure good care for my mother!

That all this was visited on us by an African-American woman who is a faithful churchgoer at an African-American Methodist Episcopal church I've visited several times made it even more obscene, and more painful. Norma is right, there's plenty of discrimination to be handed out by African-American citizens of Arkansas against those who are gay, and who claim that they can't begin to imagine what it's like to be discriminated against as a gay person--though people of color (rightly) expected me to understand and imagine what it was like to experience discrimination due to race during the Civil Rights struggle.

Thanks, mag, Sister, and Norma, for your deep understanding and support. In your short stay here, Norma, you learned a library full of knowledge about how we do business--and, most of all, how we keep things as they are, with the same small group of folks always controlling everything, and most of the rest of us ignorant and angry at everything but what should anger us most of all, our privation and economic exploitation. And anyone who thinks the statewide paper, the Dem-Gaz, does not have everything invested in colluding with that small group exploiting all of us economically--anyone who thinks the statewide paper is about educating us and not keeping us ignorant and angry at the wrong things--is either willfully blind or so enmeshed in the very structures that hold us all back, that he/she just won't see.

Posted by JusticeforAll on 11/05/2010 at 7:18 AM

Re: “There's a new pub in town

You may want to do a wee bit of research about what Irish people themselves say about "some traditional Irish favorites, like corned beef and cabbage." This is just one among many articles on that topic: http://www.salon.com/food/francis_lam/2010….

My Irish grandmother would be rolling in her grave to hear that corned beef and cabbage is a "traditional" Irish meal. Just as she would be to find Irish pub food associated with corned beef and cabbage, fish and chips, and shepherd's pie: http://www.nj.com/insidejersey/index.ssf/2…

Posted by JusticeforAll on 11/04/2010 at 7:40 PM

Re: “UPDATE: No resignation yet from Clint McCance

@Towerdog (Bruce W. Holsted): "Anderson Cooper is way homosexual... he obvisouly has an agenda getting this guy on the air. Someone should have told this guy Cooper was gay so he could hammer him as well."

Good gracious, yes. Find a gay to "hammer" anytime you can.

Find a gay to hammer anytime you need to show the world that you're a big man.

'Cause that's what hammering a gay does. It makes you a big man. You may not have much education. You may not have contributed much to society.

But you can be a big, big man if you find a gay like Anderson Cooper and hammer him.

Posted by JusticeforAll on 10/31/2010 at 7:12 AM

Re: “Real pub fare

". . . Frankly I couldn�t care less."



Well, yes, I think that does come through in quite a few food reviews.



And it might be why it's so difficult for the Times to get any really decent conversation going about food. Because people do care passionately about food--and should do so.



They care about whether the food they're being served is authentic and healthy. And whether people writing about it know what they're talking about it, when they review restaurants.



Cheap shots at those who try to stimulate informed conversation about food matters are hardly conducive to keeping the conversation alive, are they?

KAT: I apologize if you thought I was directing a comment towards you; the subject of fish and chips has come up quite often in recent conversations. I do have a close friend who is an Irish immigrant who just adores Hibernia AND its fish and chips, for the record.

However, calling into question whether I have a passion for food is like calling the Pope into question for whether or not he is Catholic. I would think it apparent by the distances I am willing to travel to try a restaurant and the frrequency of my postings on this blog that I do indeed have a strong passion for food. I simply do not believe that fried, buttered or fatty foods are inherantly evil. I believe that just about anything consumed in moderation has the capacity for a goodness of its own.

I stand completely behind this review and behind every review I place on Eat Arkansas.

Posted by JusticeforAll on 10/01/2010 at 5:13 PM

Re: “Brownings returns?

"Ambiguous: capable of being understood in either of two or more possible senses" (Merriam-Webster dictionary).

That's exactly what I meant when I used this word.

Posted by JusticeforAll on 10/01/2010 at 5:10 PM

Re: “Brownings returns?

Thanks, Radfem.

Some questions I'd respectfully like to have asked, had a blogger not framed any such questions as manifestations of hate (on a food blog, no less!):

1. So, a Facebook page. And isn't it strange that whoever put that page up to announce the renovation of a restaurant has put no information (none that I can find, that is) about who has set up the FB page or who's renovating the restaurant? If you want the kind of public exposure represented by a FB page, why not tell us who you are?

2. And ditto for the Twitter site to which the posting links.

I find the whole phenomenon of promoting new restaurants in LR via Facebook pages pretty ambiguous, after what happened with the House.

Posted by JusticeforAll on 09/29/2010 at 4:12 PM

Re: “Brownings returns?

Wow. It seems that calling anyone who may log in with a different opinion than yours a hater is a real conversation-stopper, Rosso.

Who would dare to voice a different perspective with that kind of rhetorical overkill framing any alternative responses? Not good for lively dialogue.

Posted by JusticeforAll on 09/29/2010 at 2:03 PM

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